The Spirit of Christmas

Ever since I was young, Christmas has always had religious aspects, and growing up with those ideas reminds me why we celebrate Christmas every year. But today I wanted to talk about the side of Christmas that is a consequence of gathering for this religious holiday. This is an excuse to set aside time and be with the ones you love. Stores close, and society, in general, slows down, because we all know that this one day of the year is meant to be with family and friends.

Yes, there are toys and presents, and consumerism tied to Christmas, but I find that to be a harsh and skeptical view. When I buy gifts for someone, there has been a lot of effort and thought that goes into it. It does at the end of the day show you care, and how you perceive this person and what they mean to you. This doesn’t mean that the gift must be multiple things, or expensive, but really it is all about the thought.

Or when we cook Christmas dinner, and we make sure to have certain dishes on the table because they are a tradition. The dishes on the table represent the traditions we have had for years, the food we eat and the way its prepared represents our culture, the thoughts behind the gifts show that we care. Being together shows us that family is the most important thing at the end of the day, either the blood family or the ones you choose to have in your life.

Christmas is also a time for giving, and showing people that they are not alone, and that people will help them. It’s about realizing that you have a lot more than other people and that you are lucky and privileged to have what you have. And those who do not have as much, deserve to have exactly what you have. So, we give and lift their spirits.

But most importantly Christmas is a time of hope. A time where society comes together and realizes that they can do better, that helping is needed and is a good thing. The Spirit of Christmas is different for everyone, to me, it means traditions, family, culture, fun, thoughtfulness, giving and hope.

What does the Christmas spirit mean to you?

 

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Favorite Christmas Movies

To start off 12 days of blogging, I thought it would be nice to share some of my favorite movies. I am sure you have seen many of these, but if you haven’t, I suggest you grab yourself some friends and family, with a steaming cup of hot chocolate and watch a few Christmas movies throughout the month!

Without further ado, here is my favorite Christmas movie!

  • Elf
  • Christmas with the Kranks
  • Eloise at the Plaza at Christmas Time
  • How the Grinch Stole Christmas
  • National Lampoons Christmas vacation
  • Love Actually
  • The Holiday
  • Santa Claus (1,2,3)
  • Miracle on 34th Street
  • A Charlie Brown Christmas

Leave a comment down below if you have seen any of this, and a few of your Christmas movies as well!

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!

Take Care of Yourself

There will reach a point where everything will far apart.

You will probably be neglecting your family and friends, your mental and physical health, essentially your sanity. The universe has probably been warning you that you are headed down this path not-so-great, yet you have been dodging the signs left, right and center.

It’s only when we are physically not in shape, that we can see what is going wrong with our lives. As a student in university, this time of year is crunch time. So, when I became sick a few days ago, I wanted to cry, because I knew that I needed to be on top of my game, and give a 100% to everything, but I couldn’t anymore, physically or mentally.  My body was weak, my head kept pounding, and my nose was a water fountain, and to top it all off I lost my voice.

It was at this point that I realized just how stressed out I was and had been for the past few weeks. I noticed how I had not stopped, either between work, school, and homework, since the end of summer. There wasn’t a day without a long to-do list, or somewhere to be, or homework to do. For those few weeks, all I did was go through the motions and just kept pushing myself, which apparently took a toll.

So yesterday after much negotiation with myself, I did absolutely nothing. I sat in bed or on my couch all day and watched movies. I forgot how good it felt to do nothing, and just shut off my brain.

We are constantly on the go, and when we are not, we find ways to fill up our time. But that takes on you, mentally and physically. If I did not get sick this week, then I know that I would’ve gotten sicker later, and it would have been worse.

Getting sick even though it isn’t the greatest, was a wake-up call to how I’ve been taking care of myself. And how if I don’t slow down or stop every once in awhile, there won’t be much of me left.

So please, take a break. I know its hard to find the time, but eventually, your body will force you to. Don’t exhaust your body or your brain, take care of them. Take care of yourself.

Have a wonderful day!

A New Path for The Life We Dream of

The life we dream of encompasses many things. It encompasses money, budgeting, lifestyle, food, makeup, music, politics, world events, choices, motivation and inspiration, and every aspect of life you could possibly think of. The life we dream of is extremely complex, and here on this blog, I want to explore the complexity that life brings with it. I want to explore everything in the world and create a balance of all the things that encompass life (see very long list provided above). Because the life we dream of isn’t just motivation, it’s about what happens when that motivation gets put into use, and how it causes a chain reaction. Lifestyle isn’t just about décor or fashion, it’s about people creating businesses, following their passions, having an impact on everyday society. Politics and world news affect everyone, down to an ant. Everything that I have already talked about goes a lot deeper than what meets the eye; looking at what meets the eye is a lot easier to do than to look at what’s going on.

I want the life we dream of to look at the bigger picture and focus in on the specifics. But I find that it is so important to look at what lies behind everything, and the information we keep ignoring. By having that information, you will be able to make better judgments, decision, choices. You will be able to see the complexity that goes into everything that is presented to us. You will be able to see the good and the passion behind these complexities. And most importantly, I hope you will find the complexity of yourself, and how it should not be a daunting or awful discovery, but rather the thing that makes you human, interesting and amazing.

The Life We Dream Of, is going to be on a new journey down a new path. I want to show you that there is so much more to everything you are doing, and everything that is happening around you. That doesn’t mean I am going to ditch the motivation, and favourite books or quotes posts, because I do enjoy writing those. But I will pay more attention to what they mean to me and what impact they have. And I will start writing more about things that I feel confident about, and put more energy and time into each blog post.

I absolutely love this journey I am on. I created this blog just at the right time in my life when I needed it most. I still need it and do not plan to let it go. Which is why I want to put more of my energy into it.

I hope you have been enjoying the blog so far, and stick around to see where it’s going to go! Leave a comment down a below with any suggestions or things you want me to talk about!

Thanks for reading, and have a wonderful day!

Small gestures

Small meaningful gestures can make a person’s day…

Sometimes it can be a hug, or a smile, or even a little pep-talk. Sometimes buying them their favourite hand soap, fuzzy socks, or a book they’ve really wanted, can change turn around a bad and crappy day, into a not-so-crappy and bad day.

We don’t always have to do things in grand gestures and make it known to the entire world. Sometimes its more meaningful and special if that special gift or moment is kept quiet and between you and the other person.

Just something I think we should all think about once in awhile… and since the holiday season is approaching, it was just something we need to keep in mind. Not only in this time of year, but every day of the year.

Have a wonderful day!

Reality Check

Life will slap you in the face, and you will never see it coming.

I’ve had numerous slaps in the face (basically, reality checks), whether it be from school, family, friends, money or even work. I thought that these reality checks were finally done and that it happened once and that was it. Except, it had to continue because we take forever to realize what is right in front of us.

Its been years, and I didn’t realize that certain people were not good friends for me, and do not need to be in my life. Yet time and time again, I forgot that these people were not good for me. Reality did what it does best, and made sure that I remembered how these people were, or else I would’ve steered myself in a horrible direction.
Reality once again hit when it came to my family, and how I didn’t spend enough time with them. I was letting life go by, and not seeing my family, and when they expressed how upset they were, I didn’t understand why. It’s only when I was forced to look at the situation from their perspective that I realized that I needed my family because they are my support group and that they needed me since I am part of their support group. But I needed a slap in the face from life to remember that.

These are only a few examples, but if you pay attention life is constantly sending you these warning signs. It’s a blaring loud noise, yet we claim not to hear it because we never pay attention. These reality checks make us realize how inattentive we are to our surroundings, those around us and the world. These reality checks are meant to have us take a step back and realize that the rest of the world is moving and going on and that we need to be part of that.

If everything in your life has been going wrong or flying by too fast, or you believe everything is perfect, take a step back. You need to wake up and realize that there’s something wrong if everything is crumbling around you. Or if you don’t notice where the time is going, and that you think everything is perfect when really you fail to see the areas of your life that desperately needs improvement. Remember that this isn’t a bad thing, it’s a way to make your life truly better, and not just a cover up your life with the idea that everything is okay.

Life has been sending you all these warnings, and if you haven’t noticed them, then take this blog post as your need for a reality check.

I hope this helps one of you!

Have a wonderful day, and thanks for reading!

The Flip of a Switch

We all need those moments to escape from our lives, or even from ourselves… today I needed that badly. Over the last few weeks, I have been anything but myself. I have been lazy, unmotivated, and not bothering with anything. That’s not who I am, or who I want to become; I am usually motivated, driven, and want to do everything and anything. Maybe you are feeling this way also like you are just not yourself lately, it’s weird and different because on the outside you are the same as always. But on the inside, where only you know what’s going on, it seems like an upside mess.

That’s how I have been feeling lately, which is very unusual and probably unlike you too. We both have 2 options, or 2 paths to take let’s say. We can continue experiencing this horrible and weird feeling, or we can sit down and have a talk with ourselves. Many people don’t like being alone with their thoughts, and I understand because sometimes they don’t take the best shape or form, but when we’ve hit this point where our whole lives are being affected, we need too.

I need you to sit down and just be with yourself. Try to pinpoint what situations or events led you to this state of not being you. Recall how or who you were before this weird phase, and think if you want to go back to the person you were, or if you want to start fresh, both are an equally good option. These thoughts that come from sitting down with yourself don’t happen in one minute or even one day. Rather, it’s an accumulation of all the little moments of reflection you have had. Whether it’s that small journal entry where you noticed something was off about you. Or during that walk or metro ride home, where you were just by yourself and listening to music. Or those random moments during the day where you space out and think “What is going on with me?”

Those little moments over time, come together and will lead you to feel this shift. It’s not dramatic or filled with just the right background music and beautiful scenery like in a movie, but it’s like a flip of a switch. Its quiet, fast and you don’t even notice it. You go back to your old self without even really noticing it, and trust me you will be so happy and relieved.

Somehow over time that drive will return, you’ll want to do things, and go places, and get shit done. However, all of that takes time, and you absolutely need to work at it. Yes, it will be hard, uncomfortable, and weird, but when that flip of a switch happens you’ll be glad you went through all that.

Remember, this weird phase you are in is not who you are, its how you get out of it and return or create your true self, that makes you who you are.

Thanks for reading! Have a lovely day!

An Unexpected Result

At the beginning of October, I set myself the challenge of writing 31 blog posts in 31 days.

I did not reach 31 blog posts, and that did disappoint me, and I felt like I had failed myself and the blog. But then I looked at the number of blog posts I did post and including this post I wrote 16 posts.

Some of you might see this as a failure since I only accomplished half my goal. And though that is true, I see this as an accomplishment. I went into this venture, with the mentality that I’ll go through it for 3 days and then dump it just like every other project. Surprisingly, I proved myself wrong, I kept coming back and pushing on. Sometimes my doubt did get the best of me, but I didn’t let it put me down forever. These 16 blog posts are an accomplishment because it helped me learn new things, and see that this is something I want to keep around in my life.

October was also a time I wanted to designate for getting my life back on track, to find myself again, reignite my spark and drive! And that did not go according to plan, or in anyway that I wanted it to… but while everything else around me was crumbling, or floating away, this blog was here.

And I hope you realize that this blog and I will always be here, whether you need advice, comfort, an escape or a good laugh. Creating that sense of community, or creating something that will always be there was an accomplishment. And honestly one I did not expect to happen, but I am sure glad it did!

Just a heads up, from now on, I will be posting on Sundays, Wednesdays, and Fridays.

I can’t wait to see where this will lead me… and I hope you stick along for the turbulent ride ahead, it’s going to be a blast!

Have a wonderful day!

Things Take Time

Whenever I start getting impatient with the universe, I sit down and remind myself that everything takes time. Now I can stress and freak-out during that time of waiting, or I can be calm and trust in the fact that whatever is going to happen will put me on the path that I need to be.

I am going, to be honest, I am constantly waiting for “the one”, or really anyone to cross my path so we can instantly connect and fall in love. Obviously, it’s much more complicated than that, but the basics are what I’ve always wanted. And that hasn’t happened to me, and for the longest of time I put myself down about it. I thought that my hair was too curly, or not curly enough. Or that I was too loud, or too talkative, or not talkative enough. I thought I was ugly and scary, or too bitchy. Essentially, I thought a lot of bad things about myself because no boy had ever paid attention to me in that way. But when they started too, those excuses had evaporated, and I realized that they had absolutely no foundation to base themselves on and that I was perfect just the way I am. Just to clarify, I didn’t need a boy to tell me that, what I needed was a wakeup call to realize that I shouldn’t need someone else to tell me my self-worth.

Okay then after those excuses were crushed, why did I still feel this sense of hopelessness? I then started seeing someone, and it didn’t work out. We were both interested in each other, and we both felt comfortable around each other, so why didn’t it go further?

I don’t have an exact explanation for this, but what I’ve come to understand now that I’ve been removed from the situation, is that we would not have lasted, or even remotely worked out in the long run. We were at different speeds, and at different points in our lives. But then that led me to think, well then why the hell did I waste my time? And I can only guess that the universe was trying to show me what I didn’t want, and that at the time it wasn’t the best decision for me to enter a new relationship. But in the end, it was not a waste of time, because I still enjoyed being around this person.

I’m am not saying to not go after what you want; you should always go after what you want! But in moments like those, I was reminded that I didn’t want that, I just wanted the idea of being with them.

The universe will have everything figured out and act according to your decisions. I could have decided to do certain things that may have thrown me off track, and the universe would have put me right on track again. What I am trying to say is to have faith in the universe, and in yourself. Things take time, and it will work itself out the way its supposed to.

Morning Pages

I started adding something new to my morning routine since it felt like it was time to change things up a bit. I started writing morning pages! I used to do this when I was younger, it was something my mom insisted we had to do for a time. I’m sure you have heard of this before, but if not, essentially every morning before you really do anything else or carry on with your day, you take a few minutes to just sit down and write. The idea is to write in a stream of consciousness style, so whatever comes to your mind without giving it a second thought or judgment. Now I’m not exactly sure about the science behind it but it is said to clear your mind, focus you on the day ahead, and make you feel a little clearer about the clutter in your mind. I suggest doing some further reading on it if you are interested in the benefits. It has also been very useful for artists, or anyone that does anything creative throughout their day, which is almost everyone.

Now from what I read, and from what I remember from doing them when I was younger is that you might get really discouraged. We might jump to the idea to go buy a new notebook for these morning pages (any excuse to buy a new notebook, am I right?), but I say use one you have probably only used half of, and commit to doing it for a week, and then 30 days, and then see the progress or how it affects you. At least, that’s what I am going to try, and ill report back!

I encourage you to look it up and give it a try! I’ll check in after awhile to see what I am thinking of them!

If you practice morning pages or have done it, please leave some advice down below or your experience!

Thanks for reading, and I hope you have a wonderful day!

 

We Can’t Know What Happens Next

We want to know everything that’s going to happen to us, and we want to know it now. We want our lives to feel complete, we want to know exactly who we are, we want to know when we will meet the one, and we need to know now. We essentially want the answers to the mystery that is our lives, but doesn’t that defeat the purpose of living?

Its like when you want to read a book, but someone tells you the entire plot and the ending, why would you want to read the book anymore? Same goes for our lives, if we were born with the plot and ending of our story, what would the point of living be? We would essentially live a life where we know exactly what’s going to happen, which does seem slightly calming and rather appealing, I agree.

But I want you to imagine not having that gasp-worthy moment of someone sweeping you off your feet, or that surprise birthday someone you loved spent weeks planning for you; Or those moments when you accomplish something, and you feel on top of the world. Imagine not having those moments…

Some will argue that at least you would know the bad that is to come. And to that I say, why on earth would you want to sit around with the thoughts of all the bad things that are bad to happen to you?It’ss like if you were to just live in darkness for your entire existence. There would be no purpose for you; you wouldn’t have that tiny glint of hope or brightness to get you through those bad times, therefore you wouldn’t get through them, and you wouldn’t live. At that point you would barely be existing, you would just be going through the motions of a preplanned life.

This might sound very blunt, but its simply to prove a point. We don’t get the right to know how our life is going to pan out. Think of this as the universe trying to make sure you give it your all, you chase after you dreams, and you live as if you did not know what’s going to happen next.

And personally, I think that’s the only way you can truly live: to live as if you do not know what lies ahead.

Knowing what’s going to happen to you, doesn’t bring that sense of calm we all want. We will never have that sense of calmness, because life is not meant to be simply calm. Life is meant to be the rockiest hills you can imagine, with so many twists and turns, beautiful valleys, and unfortunate events lurking near by. But somehow together, all that jumbled mess, can create one beautiful and amazing life that’s worth living for.

 

Thanks for reading, and have a wonderful day!

Fall Candles

It is officially Fall! With Fall, comes the aspect of feeling cozy, and I had already shared with you all my favourite teas, so I thought that it would be nice to talk about their accompanying friend, candles!

My mom and I are obsessed with candles, even just regular non-scented candles. They bring such a calm atmosphere and a sense of peacefulness. So here are a few of my favourite candles!

  • Sweet Cinnamon Pumpkin by Bath and Bodyworks
  • Coconut by Pier 1 Imports
  • Warm Vanilla Sugar by Bath and Bodyworks
  • Fall Festival by Ashland

I know that scented candles especially have become a trend for fall, but they were always a part of something important in my life. I remember lazy Sunday evenings after the sun had gone down, and the candle would be lit, and we would be reading and just hanging out together as a family. The light from the candle was a nice way to bring us together.

Hope you check out these candles!!

Have a wonderful day!!