The End– Spring Your Life Series

We have officially reached the end of the Spring Your Life series! Thank you for joining me on this journey, and I hope at least something I wrote about has helped you.

We will always have this voice of doubt sitting in the back of our minds, and pushing that voice away will be something that is going to test your strength. But the only thing that has gotten me through that is the fact that I see people my age, accomplishing so many amazing things, and we have the same tools and opportunities at our disposal, so why can’t I do what I want? Yes, there will be obstacles, but everyone faces obstacles every day of their lives. These obstacles are meant to test our strength, not stop us!

That little voice of doubt in the back of your mind will one day be overpowered by your conscious, and that day will only come when you decide that it needs to shut up. And that will never be easy, finding yourself, and figuring out your life will never be easy… and it might seem daunting and terrifying, but in the end, it will be worth it!

Because at the end of your life, you will remember all the people who mean more than life itself to you. You will remember all those times you failed, but got back up and how that made you stronger. You will remember how mistakes taught you lessons. You will remember people who have changed your life, and the lives of people who you have helped and cared for. To get to that point, it’s a long journey… that journey does not just happen, it takes a lot of hard work. To live an accomplished life means to live a life that is meaningful to you and only you. When you reach the end, I want you to say that you did everything you wanted, and got everything you hoped for out of it. I know it sounds cliché and all, but it’s most probably a cliché because everyone wants it.

I hope that through discovering yourself, your core values, your life goals, your priorities, and what happiness means to you, and being able to visualize it all has given you some of the necessary tools you will need to conquer the world.

As the Spring Your Life Series comes to an end for this year (I’ll be back with more next spring!), I just wanted to let you all know that these past few months have been difficult on my part and that this series was meant to help figure out my life, which I have to say it did help. And I hope it helped you also, I know it won’t fundamentally change your life because no one else can decide to do that but yourself, but I hope it helps kick start your decision…

And so I leave you, until my next post! I will continue to post the types of blog posts that were part of the Spring Your Life series throughout the year so I will make sure you keep getting your life together do not worry!

Thank you for reading, and Have a Wonderful Day!

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Prioritising Your Energy

If you have one thing to give back to the world, it is your time and energy. The problem that many face is that they often lack the energy to do things, or to be around people. If you are experiencing this lack of energy and not enough time, maybe it is time you re-evaluate where your energy is going, and who it is going to.

Too often we spend time and energy on people who not appreciate us, or who do not reciprocate the same amount of energy we put into them. Which essentially leads to parts of your life becoming increasingly tiring, draining, and exhausting. When we do not distribute our energy to the right situations or the right people, we end up running out of it a lot quicker and that is not something we want in our lives. Which is why when we spring clean our lives, we also need to spring clean the people in our lives. I am not saying that you need to cut people out of your life, but you need to look at who deserves more of your energy compared to others. But if cutting people out of your life is necessary for your mental and physical health, and overall well-being then goes ahead and cut them out of your life.

Now how exactly do you know where your energy is going? First, we need to look at people in your immediate circle. I’m talking your core group of friends/boyfriend/girlfriend (say the 3-4 main best friends in your life) and your family; think about how each of their relationship with you is like, and you will slowly start to see that maybe someone hasn’t been putting much energy into you as you have into them, or vice versa. The thing about these immediate groups of people is that we often get offended when they aren’t always giving us constant attention, and not the same amount of energy is being reciprocated. You need to keep in mind that people are having tough times and that at the moment they might need you to put more energy into them, and maybe not have it reciprocated fully at the moment.

Next look at your larger group of friends, these people do matter to you, but if you are giving them more energy and attention, without it being reciprocated, then your immediate circle, then I suggest re-evaluating what that person means in your life. And these are a group of friends, whether they are class friends or work friends, they are friends of circumstance. You all happen to be in the same place and situation, so why not make it fun and bearable. Which is totally cool and all, but realistically the chances of you hanging onto them for life is minimal—though it can be possible. Anyway, when it comes to your larger group of friends, give them some of your energy, but not all of it, or as much as you would for your immediate circle.

As I addressed a little earlier, cutting people out of your life is tricky business. And sometimes you might regret it, and it might hurt; ending a friendship is not something that just happens or smooths by you. When we cut people out our lives, we first need to think why we are doing this? Is there anything that you can work out with them? Have you tried talking to them and they still don’t change anything? Eventually, you will reach a point where you realize that this person is a great a person, but is not a good person for you and your mental or physical health. This is where people might be confused because just the way someone is with you does not define them entirely. If they are a certain way with you and you have a toxic relationship with them, it does not necessarily mean they are seen like that by everyone else. Once you reach that level of understanding that this person does not help you or contribute to your energy or life, and understand that they still are a great person, then you will finally become mature enough to cut people out of your life. But unfortunately, getting to that point is not easy.

Prioritizing your energy is one of the most important things that you can do. I have no doubt that it will be hard, but there comes a certain point where you will have to do it for your well-being.

I hope this helped you, and if you have any comments of suggestions for everyone out there, please feel free to leave them down below!

Also, thank you to the 10 followers I have on my blog!!!! I know the number seems small, but it honestly feels like a huge accomplishment and pushes me to keep going forward. Thank you thank you thank you!!

Have a Wonderful Day!

Vision Boards

Welcome to another blog post of the Spring Your Life series, and today we are going to talk about vision boards!

Why make a vision board? Some people feel like it is a bogus thing that does not actually do anything… Trust me I was one of those people, but after I made one, you look at them differently. If they are done properly, and with the right intentions, something good can come out of it. SO today I decided to guide you through the process of making a vision board.

A vision board is meant to visualize the life you want, it can be long term or short term, or in my case, it can be for something specific, like this blog.

Before you actually start assembling your vision board you need to sit down and think about what you really want. People will often feel embarrassed about what they want in life because others will not understand, so I am telling you to ignore this, or any commentary from other people for that matter. You need, to be honest with your vision board, because it’s the only way you’ll reach a clearer vision of what you want out of life.

So after you have established what you want on your vision board let’s get to creating.

Step 1: After you have thought out your vision, just loosely draft the design of it on a piece of paper so you can get a general sense of what it will look like.

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Step 2: Gather all the supplies you will need.

  • Cork board or Poster
  • Thumbtacks or glue or tape
  • Pictures (from magazines or the internet)
  • Scissor
  • Ruler
  • Any cut out of words or quotes
  • Any additional touches of décor you would like to add to your vision board, like stickers or pom poms

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Step 3: Assemble the vision board! Have fun with this process and be creative as you want! In the back of your mind, remember the significance of each thing being placed on the vision board, and why it is important that is there.

Step 4: Now that it is assembled, think… is this what you want out of life? Is this how you envision it to be? Hang it somewhere where you will see it every day, whether that be your room, office, den, living room etc. This will be a constant visual reminder to your brain and give you a sense of direction or purpose on days where you feel as if you have none.

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Remember that vision boards can change and will change. It is important to check in every 6 months to a year to make sure it is up to date with how you are.

Have fun and enjoy!

Happiness– Spring Your Life

For today’s Spring Your Life series, we are going to talk about happiness!

I had an entire post written about happiness, but it did not seem genuine. Lately, I’ve been feeling nostalgic, happy and excited, so I thought what better time to write about happiness!

Yesterday, I ran into an old math teacher of mine. I despise math class or anything to do with math, but honestly, he is probably one of the most inspiring people I have ever met. Around this time of year, towards the end of the semester, a lot of people are asking what’s next in your life.  He indeed did ask that, to which I answered that I am going to University in the fall, to study Political science. Instead of just saying “oh that’s great”, he looked me dead in the eyes and said “Is that what you want? Is that what makes you happy?” and without hesitation, I answered, “yes, of course”. He smiled, and in response said “good, you should live your passion every day of your life. Don’t do something because someone else told you to, you’re going to end up living a miserable life if you do”.

I can already hear people being like not everyone has the luxury or the circumstances to live their passion. And honestly, I believed that too for a long time, until I realized the kind of life my teacher had been living. He said that he has been married for over 47 years, happily, and has been living his passion (aka math) for the past 50 years. I would say he is now in his 70s, and if he can be that happy, and that content with his life, it can only mean one thing! If you want to be happy, then you need to do what you want to do, and follow your passion, regardless of what others might think.

Happiness is not some complicated state of being that rarely anyone can reach, rather it is a decision you must make every day. And it is understandable that there will be challenges and hard times in your life, but that does not mean you can’t choose happiness when you can. There is no secret to happiness, the only way you can achieve happiness is to live it every single day. Choosing happiness is not easy, especially in circumstances that we can never see or be happy, but that just means you have a more complicated decision to make. There are obviously exceptions to everything, but if you can, always and I mean always, choose to be happy and live your passion. With the hopes of getting everything, you wanted out of life.

 

Thank you for reading, and have a wonderful day!

Spring Your Life– Get to Know Yourself

Who are you? What do you like? What do you dislike? Any hobbies? These are the questions that freak me out the most, why might you ask? Because I never have a straightforward, simple and true answer. Every time someone asks me these things, I quickly turn the conversation around, for the fear that they will find me boring, or give up trying to understand my jumbled words.

Today we are going to cover three things, all about who you are! First, we’ll look at discovering who you truly are, then move onto accepting who you are, and lastly be confident while being your true self. Let’s begin, shall we?

Whenever you ask me something as simple as my favourite colour, it becomes some sort of repeated answer. For the past decade, I have been saying that my favourite colour is purple, which it hasn’t been since about 7 years ago. So why do I still say it is? Well because it is easy and simple to just regurgitate something you already know, even if it isn’t true. Because quite honestly my favourite colours are any shade of blue! But I don’t tell people that! Why? Because the last time I apparently sat down and thought about who I was and what I liked, was apparently a decade ago.

So what we need to do is sit down and just ask yourself the really stupid questions, we have never thought to update about ourselves. I mean we update physical things like our closet, or room, or house, but never what’s on the inside and who we are.

Here are some basic easy questions, which surprisingly enough you might not easily know the answers to.

What is your favourite meal?

What is your favourite colour?

Dream vacation destination?

White or Black?

Half full or Half empty?

Bath or Shower?

What’s your favourite song of all time?

Movies of TV shows?

These seem like basic questions, but answering them all truthfully takes a few minutes (obviously there are exceptions). For the longest of time, and even now, I have a hard time knowing what I like and don’t like.

By getting to know the little things about yourself, it will be easier when it comes time to meet someone new or to make a bigger decision.

Next is accepting who we are, which I will admit can be very difficult. We have changed, but sometimes what we like and don’t like have also changed, and admitting that part is a lot of shifting and change in your life to handle. You need to start by not caring what others will think of you if that is where your mind goes immediately. Because honestly they are not living your life, and they should have no effect on who you are and what you want of don’t want! Accepting yourself and all the little things isn’t easy, but it’s something you will always need to work on, and it takes time, and that’s okay. You take as much time as you need.

Now that you have accepted who you, show it! You should feel empowered and comfortable in who you are, and you need to show it! Being confident and empowered is one of the best feelings in the world, it really feels as if you are on top of the world. I know standing tall and being confident is hard, and this won’t likely happen every day. But on those days that you feel like you have an extra pep in your step, take advantage, and be proud of you who are! You are a fantastic human being, which so much to offer to this world, and you are just amazing!! Don’t hide it!

Now go figure out who you are, because showing off who you truly are, is the best thing you can do for the world!

Have a wonderful day! I’ll see you next time for another blog post in the Spring Your Life series!

Spring Your Life– Goals

We’ve established our values and priorities, and now it’s time for a bit of soul searching, so buckle up!

Today we are going to discuss goals, and this can be life goals, or daily, weekly, monthly and yearly goals. I am a firm believer that when we have a deadline or a goal, then our mind starts setting up to get to that point.

People believe that goals can only be created once a year, around the time of New Years. But I am here to tell you that, that is complete bullshit. You can’t time your spontaneous life around one time of year. There will be times, even the most random of times, where an idea or concept will come to your mind, and you might not seize the idea because it’s not the time of the year to think of new things. Yes, New Year’s resolutions is a great place to start, but it is not the only place to start. Creating goals does not have a time constraint, it can happen whenever. So how about after reading this… seems like the perfect time?

Back to the point! Let’s look at how we create goals. We need to begin by dreaming big, and I mean big. People forget that everything around us was created by people who dreamed big, who were ambitious and had goals! You’ll hear the excuses that it was all luck, but did you ever think that no one can be that lucky? Yet they still have all that… Want to know how they did it? They made their own luck and opportunities. And how do you do that? Well first off, you will need a goal to reach. Going through life without any goals is like wandering in a vast field with nothing in it. Moral of this story, dream big. Might sound delusional, but everyone who has done it, and gave it their all and has never stopped, have accomplished their goals.

Now we need to come up with our goals. So take a few moments and think about what you would love to do in life? Maybe it’s a specific career you want, maybe it’s to open your business or even smaller things. Honestly to begin, think of a weekly or monthly goal, and then your work your way up to larger goals. I’ll give you an example, this blog. It has been a goal of mine for a while, and I stopped at one point, but recently I picked it back up. Now I write about things that I would want to read, and I have a goal with this blog.  I want this blog to help people going through rough times, bring brightness and the sunshine to people, and to send positive vibes to the internet world. Once I knew which direction I wanted to take, my blog was revived and honestly so was I, because I had created a purpose for myself. So take a few minutes and think about what you want out of life, want you to want to accomplish or fulfill!

I also want you to find something that will set your inner spark on fire, and make it like the Olympic flame, which never goes out! You need to create goals that motivate you and push you, but ultimately inspire you every day.

So hopefully by this point, you’ve thought of a goal, and now you need to break it down and plan out everything you will need to do to accomplish it. Soon, I also recommend putting a time limit if you can, on your goal. So create a plan, and all the steps, no matter how small, that you will need to reach your goal.

There you go, you have created a goal, a sense of determination! Don’t you feel the tiniest bit motivated, energized, refreshed even? Remember though, goals through times will change because you will also change. I recommend, every few months re-evaluating long-term goals, and adapting them to your specifications. Don’t change them every day, but looking them over will you keep you in a good direction, and make sure it’s still what you truly want.

Goals can be scary, but they are there for you to make sure you live a fulfilled and happy life that you want. So go out into the world and do everything you possibly can to build the life you want!

Have a Wonderful day and go Conquer the World!

Spring Your Life– Priorities

Welcome to the second chapter of the Spring Your Life series, where today we discuss priorities!

I will be the first person to admit that 90% of the time I have my priorities out of whack. Priorities are hard to prioritize, and they are constantly changing, even on a day to day basis. Some days you might prioritize your family over friends, or some chill time over homework. The downside to priorities is that we never know the consequences that follow, those decisions until it’s too late. But, once we understand and accept our priorities, then those consequences will be easier to manage and handle.

First things first, everyone is going to be at different times and stages of their lives, which means that everyone’s priorities are going to be different. Honestly, this is something that took me a long time to understand, and I know quite a few people who still do not understand this. Sometimes people are going through things in their life, or have things they find more important to do. It does not mean they do not care about you, or that they don’t want to do something, they just have a different agenda or priorities than you do. And unfortunately, you might lose people along your life because you seem to have your priorities out of order. Which is something that comes with being human, and trying to live your life, it’s not an amazing thing, but it is necessary.

But today, we’re going to focus on how to prioritize things and people in our life. If you want, the value exercise done in the Values blog post in the Spring Your Life series can help you make a list of your prioritize. Let’s start with some basics, I will always prioritize my family first, regardless of anything. Now remember this is not the case for everyone, and respecting that aspect about someone in any kind of relationship is key to making it work. Then you can have friends; which some people also subdivide into most to least importance. Now you might think that is kind of mean, but actually, it’s healthier for you, and you are putting energy into those who you care about the most, and who care about you. There are 3 people in my life that I will prioritize (in terms of friends) above a lot of other people. Some may say that’s rude and mean, but think of it to the idea that people can only count their friends on one hand. There will always be other friends, and not having them at the top of your priority list will not make you a bad person, but they just are not as essential to your life as others.

Another thing that we often need to prioritize comes out more in the academic, or career aspects of our lives. When we make lists (I’m a to-do list addict), we tend to just pile on things, no matter how important of insignificant the task is. Therefore, making our to-do list seem longer, and we never get to the end of it, or feel accomplished at the end of the day because we never did the important things. What you need to do, as well as your to-do list, is create a priority list. Example, you have a huge paper due in a few days, then that should go on your priority list; if you need to wash some towels, maybe put that on your to-do list, since it’s not an emergency to get done. Priority lists are meant to narrow out all the little things that you would do anyone, and make you pay attention to the things you absolutely need to do.

I hope you guys are starting to get interested in the Spring Your Life series, stay tuned for the next post which will be on Goals and all about goal setting!!

Leave a comment down below if you are an avid to-do list maker, or if you have any tips for prioritizing people in your life!

Have a wonderful day!