The Flip of a Switch

We all need those moments to escape from our lives, or even from ourselves… today I needed that badly. Over the last few weeks, I have been anything but myself. I have been lazy, unmotivated, and not bothering with anything. That’s not who I am, or who I want to become; I am usually motivated, driven, and want to do everything and anything. Maybe you are feeling this way also like you are just not yourself lately, it’s weird and different because on the outside you are the same as always. But on the inside, where only you know what’s going on, it seems like an upside mess.

That’s how I have been feeling lately, which is very unusual and probably unlike you too. We both have 2 options, or 2 paths to take let’s say. We can continue experiencing this horrible and weird feeling, or we can sit down and have a talk with ourselves. Many people don’t like being alone with their thoughts, and I understand because sometimes they don’t take the best shape or form, but when we’ve hit this point where our whole lives are being affected, we need too.

I need you to sit down and just be with yourself. Try to pinpoint what situations or events led you to this state of not being you. Recall how or who you were before this weird phase, and think if you want to go back to the person you were, or if you want to start fresh, both are an equally good option. These thoughts that come from sitting down with yourself don’t happen in one minute or even one day. Rather, it’s an accumulation of all the little moments of reflection you have had. Whether it’s that small journal entry where you noticed something was off about you. Or during that walk or metro ride home, where you were just by yourself and listening to music. Or those random moments during the day where you space out and think “What is going on with me?”

Those little moments over time, come together and will lead you to feel this shift. It’s not dramatic or filled with just the right background music and beautiful scenery like in a movie, but it’s like a flip of a switch. Its quiet, fast and you don’t even notice it. You go back to your old self without even really noticing it, and trust me you will be so happy and relieved.

Somehow over time that drive will return, you’ll want to do things, and go places, and get shit done. However, all of that takes time, and you absolutely need to work at it. Yes, it will be hard, uncomfortable, and weird, but when that flip of a switch happens you’ll be glad you went through all that.

Remember, this weird phase you are in is not who you are, its how you get out of it and return or create your true self, that makes you who you are.

Thanks for reading! Have a lovely day!

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Top 10 Favourite Quotes

I thought today I would just share a few of my favourite quotes, that pertain to anything and everything really. Here they are!

  1. “As long as you’ve got passion, faith and are willing to work hard, you can do anything in this life”-anonymous
  2. “Be the kind of woman that inspires other women to up their game” – anonymous
  3. “She has fire in her soul and grace in her heart” – anonymous
  4. “Surround yourself with people who empower you to be better” – anonymous
  5. “Be the girl who decided to go for it”- anonymous
  6. “It’s not who you are that holds you back, its who you think you are not” – anonymous
  7. “Follow your soul, it knows the way”- anonymous
  8. “You must do the things you think you cannot do” -Eleanor Roosevelt
  9. “To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people just exist” – Oscar Wilde
  10. “Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times if one only remembers to turn on the light”—Albus Dumbledore

And there you have it, my 10 favourite quotes! Hopefully one of them struck a chord with you. As you can see they do have an underlying theme of motivation. They keep me going, and remind me not to be afraid to do what I want, follow my dreams, or live my life!

Comment down below your favourite quotes! I am always looking for new ones!

Thanks for reading, and have a wonderful day!

Ambition

Today, I want to get you thinking about ambition. Do you consider yourself an ambitious person? Do you surround yourself with ambitious people? I can tell you right now that I am a very ambitious person, but I do not always surround myself with the same type of people. And this is no means a bash towards those who are not as ambitious, you do you. But for me at least, those who are not as ambitious as I am do not motivate, nor inspire me to push further or to keep going when it gets rough.

Say I am in a room, and someone says let’s go for coffee. They do this every day and I know that I can’t afford to go for coffee (not only because I am a broke student, and it adds up after x amount of time a week)  because I have an assignment due the next day. In general, most people will go for the coffee, but the ones that stay behind, the very few, are the ones you want to be surrounding yourself with. They are ambitious, they have goals and they have deadlines to meet, and you can tell that they will be a good influence on you! This is once again not to hate or bash anyone that is not like that, but for me, I need those types of people around me. (Note: I am generalizing, and I am lover of all things coffee, and it is okay to go grab the coffee;

I need to be able to check myself in place and realize that the only reason I am not accomplishing what I want, or let’s say getting the marks that I want, is that I am not pushing myself. I don’t see others working 12 times as much as I am, and don’t want to even try them. I am not saying I want to compete with anyone, because most times why or what you are doing are incomparable, but because I know that if they can do it, then why can’t I? Which is why a lot of the time I feel very unmotivated at home, alone doing homework and readings in my basement. I have no one to give me a reality check and show me just how much I can push myself, and how well I can accomplish something.

That’s what I mean by are you an ambitious person? Does seeing others work hard to motivate you, or inspire you to do better than what you are doing right now? Think about it… it will increase your productivity, accomplish your tasks and goals, and overall it will make you feel better.

Thanks for reading! I hope this motivates you a little bit, and you get working on whatever needs to be done!

Have a wonderful day!

Top 4 Commencement Speeches

Graduation season is upon us, and to most, this is a time where we are standing at the edge of a chapter in our lives, awaiting a new chapter to commence! So in honor of this moment, and if you are not attending any graduations this year and still want to be inspired and motivated, I decided to share my top 5 commencement speeches that have inspired me the most.

Here they are:

I hope that you will listen to as many as you like, and take some advice from them. Perhaps they will push you to move into the next chapter or phase of your life, or give you the small piece of advice you need right now.

I just want to congratulate everyone who is graduating from high school, college, university, or finishing up a stage of their life. Good luck in the years to come, and move into the next chapter with an open mind and an open heart!

Have a wonderful day!

 

The Universe

My mom always said that what you send out into the universe, like your attitude or whether you are negative or positive, is what you will get back. For a long time, it simply went in one ear, and out the other, until it had become ingrained in my mind. Since then, I know this to be true; I know that if I send negative energy out into the universe and the world around me, then the universe will just reciprocate with the same negative energy. But if I began to send out positive energy into the universe, maybe it would actually send me back the same.

It may seem as if the universe is constantly against you, don’t worry I have been there and you are not alone in that line of thinking. Honestly, the only way that, that line of thinking ends is when you change the way you think.

Lately, I have been understanding more the idea that if you don’t get something, it’s because it was not meant to be, or maybe something better lies ahead. Believing in that concept is not an easy task, but you need to believe it anyway, why? Because clearly, the way you are thinking at the moment is not benefiting you in any way. As I mentioned earlier, negativity attracts negative, so if you start thinking positive, then you will attract positive! By having faith in the universe, let’s say that’s positive, the universe will reciprocate with what you need or want. And some still will be like well why hasn’t it happened yet? And I am here to say that I get you, it took me 2 years to find a part time job, and I wanted to just give up and not bother. But eventually, I got a job! I had faith, I was patient, and I believed that I would get a job. I send out positive energy in the form or hope and wanting a job, and the universe answered this.
This is why we have things such as the law of attraction, vision boards and everything in-between. We need to put our wishes, dreams, and hopes into the universe, and have faith that the stars will align for us.

And I understand entirely that thinking or believing in this is hard, but honestly, if you doubt this way of thinking, I am going to assume that your way of thinking is not doing you any good either. So try and send positive vibes into the universe, rather the negative ones you have been sending it out. I promise it will make a difference.

If you want more details and would like to explore this concept, then do check out The Secret by Rhonda Byrne, it will change your life! (Also I believe there is a movie, but do read the book also!).

I hope that maybe this inspires you to change the way you see the universe, the world and yourself. And I promise it will pay off, you just need to have faith in yourself, and the universe, and a dash (okay maybe a cup full, of patience).

Have a Wonderful Day!

Spring Your Life– Goals

We’ve established our values and priorities, and now it’s time for a bit of soul searching, so buckle up!

Today we are going to discuss goals, and this can be life goals, or daily, weekly, monthly and yearly goals. I am a firm believer that when we have a deadline or a goal, then our mind starts setting up to get to that point.

People believe that goals can only be created once a year, around the time of New Years. But I am here to tell you that, that is complete bullshit. You can’t time your spontaneous life around one time of year. There will be times, even the most random of times, where an idea or concept will come to your mind, and you might not seize the idea because it’s not the time of the year to think of new things. Yes, New Year’s resolutions is a great place to start, but it is not the only place to start. Creating goals does not have a time constraint, it can happen whenever. So how about after reading this… seems like the perfect time?

Back to the point! Let’s look at how we create goals. We need to begin by dreaming big, and I mean big. People forget that everything around us was created by people who dreamed big, who were ambitious and had goals! You’ll hear the excuses that it was all luck, but did you ever think that no one can be that lucky? Yet they still have all that… Want to know how they did it? They made their own luck and opportunities. And how do you do that? Well first off, you will need a goal to reach. Going through life without any goals is like wandering in a vast field with nothing in it. Moral of this story, dream big. Might sound delusional, but everyone who has done it, and gave it their all and has never stopped, have accomplished their goals.

Now we need to come up with our goals. So take a few moments and think about what you would love to do in life? Maybe it’s a specific career you want, maybe it’s to open your business or even smaller things. Honestly to begin, think of a weekly or monthly goal, and then your work your way up to larger goals. I’ll give you an example, this blog. It has been a goal of mine for a while, and I stopped at one point, but recently I picked it back up. Now I write about things that I would want to read, and I have a goal with this blog.  I want this blog to help people going through rough times, bring brightness and the sunshine to people, and to send positive vibes to the internet world. Once I knew which direction I wanted to take, my blog was revived and honestly so was I, because I had created a purpose for myself. So take a few minutes and think about what you want out of life, want you to want to accomplish or fulfill!

I also want you to find something that will set your inner spark on fire, and make it like the Olympic flame, which never goes out! You need to create goals that motivate you and push you, but ultimately inspire you every day.

So hopefully by this point, you’ve thought of a goal, and now you need to break it down and plan out everything you will need to do to accomplish it. Soon, I also recommend putting a time limit if you can, on your goal. So create a plan, and all the steps, no matter how small, that you will need to reach your goal.

There you go, you have created a goal, a sense of determination! Don’t you feel the tiniest bit motivated, energized, refreshed even? Remember though, goals through times will change because you will also change. I recommend, every few months re-evaluating long-term goals, and adapting them to your specifications. Don’t change them every day, but looking them over will you keep you in a good direction, and make sure it’s still what you truly want.

Goals can be scary, but they are there for you to make sure you live a fulfilled and happy life that you want. So go out into the world and do everything you possibly can to build the life you want!

Have a Wonderful day and go Conquer the World!

“Stay Hungry, Stay Foolish”

  • Put in the hard work and effort, and you’ll go far in life.
  • Play your cards right, and make the right connections and you’ll go far in life.
  • Be patient and just tough it out, and eventually you’ll get where you need to go.

All those statements are not necessarily false, but they are not exactly true. And the previous statement is in itself terrifying, yet a relief at the same time. Unfortunately, we live in a world where things are not that easy; where getting a job after university is extremely hard, and if you do not have enough degrees you are not qualified. We live in a world of contradictions, and apparently, we are just supposed to be okay with that.

We now live in a world where to be successful you need to be self-made and you need patience. Nothing has ever come to people immediately, everything takes time. We need to understand that just like our ancestors if you want to make it at the top, you need to start at the dirt bottom. We need to have the crumby horrible paying jobs, and sometimes work 2-3 jobs at a time. And slowly we can enter into a career related job.

We now live in a world that you need to be able to teach yourself and do anything that is thrown at you. No more of the one job for the rest of your life, and do the same thing every day; you need to be prepared for anything, the minute you walk into your job.

The statements above are true, but a lot of things in this world is based on luck. Some will be luckier than others and some of us won’t be as lucky or fortunate. This is not me telling you to just call it quits, but this is me telling you to go and find your own luck.

Or better yet, create your own luck. We live in a world where if you want an opportunity you need to go make one because there aren’t enough for everyone. We live in a world where if you are reactive nothing will happen, you need to proactive and run after you want.

Lately, I’ve been evaluating my life, and I am probably the first person to admit that I am very reactive. If I want something I will not run after; I will not jump on the wagon that will maybe bring me to the train station that might take me to an airport to catch the plane of my dreams.

We have lost our hunger and curiosity, if we don’t have those things, how one earth will we accomplish our dreams and goals? So for the first time, I finally understood the quote by Steve Jobs, “Stay hungry, Stay foolish.” We lost this inner hunger and desire because we just lost all hope.

But that can change! That craving for life and experiences are things that we all have inside of us. You need to dig deep and find it, and then it will be as if a flame has been lit inside of you.

So take a few moments and reevaluate your life… seriously it will help.

Have a Wonderful day!