I am by no means an expert when it comes to balancing things and people in life because honestly, I rarely have days where I can successfully balance it all. So, you might be questioning, why is this random person (aka me) going to give me advice on how to balance life, if she can’t balance her own life? And to that, I say, true, very true, but I have learned a thing or two about balancing life.
You see the way to balance life, is not to balance life. Completely contradictory, and extremely confusing, I know! But hear me out. We focus all our energy on making sure that the aspects of our lives are balanced. Whether that be work, friends, family, partners, hobbies, school etc. we try so hard to make sure that we can do everything and be everywhere at once. Now through all this chaos and craziness, we tend to forget about the one doing the balancing, aka you. Balancing life is supposed to make your life easier, but really you are bending over backward to please everyone else. Balancing does not actually do anything for you as a person, rather it makes you stressed and nervous to keep up with all these people, be on top of all your work or school work.
I am not saying that those things are bad, or that you shouldn’t do them, but I think it is wrong to think that you need to do them all at once, perfectly, with a smile on your face, all the time! Because realistically speaking, we put on a poker face, or a happy face, for those around us, not for ourselves. We balance people in our lives for the happiness of those people, not for ourselves. Now, this is not me saying you should all go and be selfish human beings, and focus too much on one thing, but rather I am saying that you balance everything in your life, with the idea of how it will help you or advantage you.
I am simply trying to look out for you. We have all been in those situations where we are trying to keep everything and everyone afloat, and happy, yet we are sinking in misery and feel like the world around us is crumbling. Don’t let yourself get to that point! Try to realize that life is about balance, but it’s at your pace, at your happiness, at your time, not what everyone else needs or wants.
So how to truly balance it all? There is no one perfect path or recipe for it, but I can tell you that if you start putting yourself before others, and care about your well-being, while you are trying to balance it all, things will turn out in your favour.
I know this might have sounded entirely selfish, but sometimes in life, we need to be selfish, to preserve ourselves and who we are. I hope you realize that you don’t always have to be Wonder Woman, or do 9348 things at a time… take it at your pace, balance as much as you think is a healthy level you.
Thank you for reading, and have a wonderful day!!